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I got stripped!


That’s right! I literally got ‘stripped’ in front of the training class today by Arthur Carmazzi  — MENTALLY,

simply by using his Colored Brain Cards to decode me inside out!  (and it’s not even TAROT card reading!)

As someone who practices numerology and tarot card readings for others, what I had just experienced was pretty impressive!

Simply by drawing a few cards from this deck of Colored Brain cards was able to decode:

  • what makes me tick as a person
  • what are my emotional drives behind my every action,
  • How the level of growth and challenges I seek for,
  • How ‘constipated’ my mind is , ie. sort of a conflict with too many things I want to achieve and get going
  • and even WHY I would date ‘a particular type of men’ for the shorter term
  • What type of MEN that I am attracted to (don’t ask me cos’ I’m not telling)
  • and the list goes on…….

So in case if you are wondering, NO… Arthur is not a PSYCHIC reader. He’s one of world’s top leadership trainer whom I’m understudying with currently.  I am in the middle of my Leadership Psychology training, and this is just one of the powerful techniques used that can literally tell what are the emotional drives behind us.

I am very excited to introduce this to my seminars, and one on one consultations when I return back to Singapore.

You’ll be really amazed by how it can transform the way we communicate with our family and loved ones, and even increase your success rate in organisations and own business!

Meanwhile, for those who would like to do a free colored brain test, visit this site: .








I’m a Green Brain!

I’m a Green Brain!

Have you ever tried talking to someone explaining something so clearly, which you think under any common sense, the person would definitely get it, and THEY JUST DON’T GET IT?

This reminded me of my previous relationships with the men that I have dated – ‘The men just don’t get it, playing out the ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ typical squabble scenario.

I spent my past two days learning about this really amazing tool used for psycho-productivity management call the ‘Colored Brain Communication Inventory’, which is an assessment that can influence leadership, business and relationships. Just like any psychometric test, we have a set of questions to answer that doesn’t take more than 15 minutes, and results are immediate.

Imagine simply by knowing how the way your brain processes information, it can potentially transform your leadership and relationships be it at work, or with your family and loved ones.

So this Colored Brain Model has 4 brain colors – RED brain, Green brain, Blue brain and Purple brain.

After doing the test, it says I am a Green Brain! So what does that say about me?

With a Green Brain:

It is like Chaos processing in my head!

I do not need a lot of information to get started on any project, and am very open to many possibilities.

I am good at creative problem solving, like impromptu moments..

With little information, I can start taking action and build on my project, and I just need to continue to gather feedback along the way

I’m spontaneous

I do not work too well in a structured environment with too much rules.

I can come across as impatient

and lot’s more…

Well, it totally nailed it!  More importantly through this assessment, how it helped me to better understand why I have much lower tolerance and stronger negative reaction towards some people, and why some projects and partnerships never quite kicked off.

Now there is no perfect colored brain as we all have mix of different ‘colors’ that are like softwares built in over time, be it cultivated from the work that we do. So my secondary color is Red brain.

To read more about the Colored brain, you can visit .colored

Looking past expectations and assumptions



Looking past expectations and assumptions

This is my second day up in Ubud, understudying leadership psychology with Arthur Carmazzi.

It has great so far. Besides the training, we have great vegetarian food, peaceful nature and morning mist I wake up too!

Yesterday happened to be my friend’s Birthday. Jane is very excited as she just got a new boyfriend Craig. Jane is somewhat holding some sort of expectation of a ‘birthday surprise’ since Craig said he was taking her out for dinner.

Well, I got to know Craig sometime. Craig being a sentimental guy, wrote a special birthday note at the back of the jigsaw puzzle that listed down from the time they dated til Jane’s birthday, all the things he loved about her. He was hoping that she would be very surprised to see the note when she eventually pieces the whole puzzle together.

Oh well, seems like things did not quite go the way both expected it to be.

Jane complained how unromantic her boyfriend was, how there were no flowers, and how kiddish the jigsaw puzzle gift was before even piecing it together.  Craig on the other hand, assumed that Jane would definitely love the gift and be impressed!

So let us observe here, if there is anything in common for many of us? It is also interesting in my leadership psychology training, these are very common areas of blame and problems that are being discussed, both applicable in professional and personal life.

So what really happened here is that many of us hold assumptions and have our own expectations as to how things should be. As a result, when someone violates our assumptions and do not lift up to what we expect things to be, we get really disappointed. Jane had all the assumptions that since it was her birthday, her boyfriend should be romantic, buy her flowers and surprise her as ‘act of love’.

I see how often simple incidents due to our own assumptions, destroy or break up relationships be it at work or at home. As we get angry, disappointed or frustrated, we lose our ability to think, logic and act reasonably.  As result, we tend to blow things out of proportion.

So in this case of Jane and Craig. Can you imagine what happens if Jane is always having assumptions of what Craig should be like as her boyfriend, and yet Craig continues to violate it? Both parties will end up quarreling quite a fair bit, and would think that this relationship is not going to work out in a matter of time.

Well, let us NOT set ourselves up to FAIL. Why bring disappointment to ourselves when we can actually avoid it all together?

If you are feeling disappointed, it is because of the thoughts you have about the situation. So if you do not want to feel disappointed, change the way we think.

With greater awareness and by shifting our perception, we will have new thoughts that can bring more rewarding conversations and fulfilling relationships with our loved ones.

Go with the flow!



Deleting important information impacting your success?

Welcome Bali, welcome me! Yeah! I am currently up in Bali having a chill out time with my lovely friend Laura who’s hosting me up here. At the same time , allow me to work on some clients, and importantly to attend a very important training on leadership psychology by one of world’s top leadership Guru Arthur Carmazzi. Super excited!

So just from the first day of training, it gave me some good revelation and new learning which I am excited to bring it back to Singapore and work with my clients. Well, do we all know that subconsciously we are deleting important information that are impacting our success day in day out?

What if all it takes is one simple modification to our awareness, our mind that can potentially increase our success, bring about more fulfilling relationships and happiness in our lives? So let me introduce this word to you. Some of us may have heard of this word call RAS – Reticular Activating System. Now, remember when you first wanted to own your first iphone or Samsung phone? Right after you got it, did you started seeing many more people holding the same phone as you? Similarly, someone wanted to buy a gold mercedez  benz. Next thing you know it, you started to see many more people driving the gold mercedez benz on the roads.

This is call our ‘mind of focus’ = RAS where we have set the ‘intention’ to attract something, and we just keep seeing it. So here’s an interesting experiment that I like to invite you to try.

I ask you to look around your room or wherever you are right now, and look out for items that are brown. (give yourself 30s). Now close your eyes, and look out for items that are color blue. IN this experiment that has been repeated many times, most people cannot recall what items are blue. This is because our mind has been set to see BROWN, and have subconsciously block out other colors like BLUE.

So imagine, in real life, we are so focus on fixing some issues, or complains, we naturally forget the better things in our lives – we are deleting /omitting what is important positive information that are impacting our success! Well think about this – When we think of security systems and what do we think of? To capture thieves and burglars breaking into houses and offices right?

Similarly, in corporate organisations, it is no wonder supervisors and managers are always looking out for issues and faults of their employees without realizing it. I have a client – Ryan who came to me for consultation and complained how his wife is always checking on him every single day. Whenever he gets home, his wife would search through his pockets, his bags, his clothes and would ask him questions like ‘where did you go?’ , ‘why did you come home so late? Are you sure you did not go else where besides going out with your friends?’

There’s one thing about is that Ryan has been up to mischief previously, having misappropriate behavior that has caused the wife to not trust him. As a result, her RAS is set to looking out for negative aspects of this relationship – the tendency of her husband to cheat. Guess what? Ryan got so tired of her regular checks, feels that he is losing interest in his wife as she is driving him ‘insane’, and there is a new lady that is creating some distraction now! In this blog, I will not discuss about what how could they, as a couple reconcile the situation so that could potentially avoid her negative behavior at this stage.

So question is : do we want to attract more positivity or negativity into our lives? All it takes is a gear shift.  A slight modification to our own awareness, our own thoughts of looking and attracting more positivity into our lives be it work or relationships, imagine what more we can attract? How can this awareness help us increase our own level of tolerance, direct our focus on more important information that can increase our success rate instead?

So let us go out there and attract more beautiful things into our lives today!

Which foot first?

I just took my first vacation this year after an exciting first quarter writing my first book.

I took a trip to New York, Miami and the Caribbean Islands, and had a training on vacation on the Norwegian cruise!

A total of 9 flights and a cruise liner in half a month. That was a record for me.

On one of the days, together with my mentor, we decided to do the Adventures Ropes Course,

which was built on the high deck of the ship – 16th storey above sea level!


The ropes course is an obstacle course that challenges your mental and physical ability,

and definitely give me the weak knees walking on high beam on 16th deck of the cruise!

There were several obstacles where you have no strings nor blocks of wood to hold onto,
and you have to walk from one end to another. Imagine walking across a fline line.

Taking the first step was the hardest.
I could not decide which foot to put out first, which leg had more strength.

And as I took the next step, I felt my knees wobbly like jelly, and the fears of not being able to place my foot fitting just right on the narrow wooden plank, in exact measurement and a little off placement, I could risk a miss and be left hanging in mid air.

At the back, I had my friends cheering “keep going keep going”.

In life, isn’t it the same.

When we need to embark on a mission, a project, or walk towards a heart’s desire,
taking the first step is the hardest.
Lots of hesitation, as we seek for security and comfort.

In life, we stop, and turn back. Some of us never took that step.

Celebratory ride!

Here’s the difference.

On the ropes course, you just keep walking.
Even if you have uncertainties in your head, fears around you with whispers in your ears,
you know that if you keep walking forward,
you will reach your landmark, though you may not know how.

Just keep walking forward.

I was received by my friend on the other end with a little help.

And when you reach the other line, the feeling is greater than all the fears that you can imagine,
just like my celebratory swing down the zipline!